It was not easy for John Travolta to lose his wife Kelly Preston to cancer. The actor opened up about his experience with grief after the death of his wife.
He gave a personal interview with Esquire Spain as he got candid. The actor shared how he learned that dealing with grief is very personal. He said, “I learned that mourning someone, dealing with grief is something very personal. Mourning is individual and experiencing your own journey is what can lead you to heal. Your grief is different from another person’s journey.”
Kelly died back in July 2020 after battling breast cancer. She and John were married for 28 years and share two children. Their son, Jett died in 2009 at the age of 16. The actor explained the most important thing one can do to help another person who is mourning. He said it is to allow them to live through it and not complicate it.
John said, “Let’s say you lose someone and at the funeral, you are very sad, then another person approaches you who is feeling sadder and then doesn’t leave enough space for you to mourn. It would be like two boats plummeting to the bottom. That is my experience.”
The actor shared that even though it is great to have company, sometimes it turns into you helping them. He said, “even though it’s great to have company, sometimes it turns into you helping them instead of you working on your loss and grief.” The actor further shared that many people approached him and then he felt “saturated” with everyone’s sadness. He added that he did not know what to do.
“If I die tomorrow, the last thing I want to see is everyone around me sinking.”
John further explains the first thing a person should do when they experience loss and grief is to go to a place where they can mourn without any interference. He said, “If I die tomorrow, the last thing I want to see is everyone around me sinking.” The actor was there for his children and supported them in any way he could. Back in February, he and his daughter broke the internet when they recreated his famous Grease dance.
The actor described it as being “magic” because there was no one else in the world whom he would want to dance with. He shared that it worked on many levels as he listed down the reason why. The actor said, “It worked on so many levels. First, it is a great piece of entertainment that people enjoyed. Second, it allowed me to introduce my daughter on a huge platform, show her talent, her beauty, and also it was a beautiful tribute for her mother.”
John shared that he and Kelly used to dance together which was something very important for them. He also noted that the video got more than 5 million views on social media. The actor further shared that they also did a TikTok challenge and asked people to recreate the choreography and it was a hit. Even though John is focusing on his career, he is more selective now.
“The best thing I can do is try to get to the point in my life that allows me to be able to enjoy it…”
However, the first priority is his children. “First of all, I’m going to ensure the future of my children, help them with whatever they want to do with their lives. It’s what I’m doing with Ella right now, with her movies and teaching her about working in the industry,” he shares. “Ben is barely 10 years old. I want to help him evolve, he has his whole life ahead of him.”
John shared that he is looking for musicals, good dramas, and comedies. He said he is selective now because he has the privilege to be so. The actor further notes that he is figuring out what is next. However, he adds the best thing he can do is try to get to the point in his life that allows him to be able to enjoy it.
He said, “I’m very selective right now because I have the privilege to be so,” he notes. “I’m just figuring out what’s next. The best thing I can do is try to get to the point in my life that allows me to be able to enjoy it, experiment with dance and music, and enjoy other people’s company. If you can enjoy your life and at the same time enjoy being with the people around you, enjoy the dancing and music, you’ve made it.”